Are You An Empath?

Let's explore the purpose of an Empath

Are you an Empath?

Do you find yourself taking on others’ stress?
Have you been accused of being too sensitive in the past?
Do you feel overwhelmed in crowded spaces?
Do you crave to be in nature?
Are you drawn to the loyalty of animals more than people?
Are you highly intuitive?

If you answered yes to these, there is a strong chance you are an Empath.

An Empath is highly attuned to the feelings and people around them. An Empath will be like a sponge absorbing the energy of people around them, and they will have trouble discerning their feelings and the feelings of others. They are:

Highly attuned to energy.
Get lost in deep emotions.
Acutely observant of others.
Highly creative.
Natural listener and nurturer.
Have difficulty receiving.

Being an Empath can have its advantages and disadvantages. Empaths tend to be warm, compassionate, and incredibly intuitive.
However, their sensitivity to light, noise, and crowds easily overstimulate them. Empaths do not like confrontation, stress, or arguments, as they overload their systems.
If you identify as an Empath, you may find it difficult to have stillness and peace in your body as you are aware of the energy around you.

Let’s be honest; the energy out there can be difficult to navigate.
Empaths rarely turn off their spiritual abilities. Their psychic antennas constantly scan the energy around them, causing their energy centres to be overworked and depleted.

While people tell Empaths, “You need to have boundaries”, boundaries can be ineffective as you have already given away so much of yourself for the betterment of others.

You may not always have the strength to implement healthy boundaries. The section “How to protect your energy” at the bottom of this page outlines what you can do to feel confident about your boundaries.

Empath Journey

You may find it fascinating to hear that many talented healers, empaths, and Coaches all experience chaotic childhoods. This type of upbringing tends to train Empaths to be aware of the energy around them at a very young age. Think about when you were little. Did you naturally energetically scan the room to see how Mum or Dad is so you could adjust yourself to keep the peace?

While it was a brilliant survival mechanism for a child, as an adult, you will need a lot of inner healing as your soul craves that the environment outside of you is calm and harmonious so you can feel calm and harmonious within. You may be surprised to learn that this childhood experience is part of the design of your purpose.
Why? We come to this lifetime to resolve soul contracts left incomplete from past lives.

If you identify as an Empath, you likely have many past lives where you shared your talents and natural gifts and yet the people were not ready to change, as the timing was not right. You may have been judged, rejected, isolated, …maybe even punished for your gifts. (For example, working with plant medicine, you were persecuted for being a witch.) Your ego may say, “Never again will I let others know about my talents,” yet your intuition knows your soul is here again to complete this empowering soul contract to embrace your talents and proudly share them with the world.

The collective needs your light to shine bright.

How does someone become an Empath?

Growing up in a healthy environment, it’s important parents formulate internal validation with young children by asking them, “What do you think?”.

Typically, Empaths grow up in a chaotic home where they have to make sure their parents are okay. A child empath would energetically (or psychically) “read” the room before they went in and then adjust themselves to make sure they kept the peace for the adult. Growing up, whatever task was given to them, an empath child had to get it right, as it was detrimental to make mistakes. This led them to be an A+ student, a perfectionist, or a high achiever.

Their beliefs are formed during this period about not being enough or doing enough.
Empaths are driven to serve, easily say “yes,” and avoid saying “no” to people’s requests. They easily agree with what people say over their own opinions and have trouble making decisions. They were not taught how to make their own decisions. This makes it hard for them to have a sense of self and drowns out an empath’s intuition.

This starts the road for an adult Empath to seek external validation from others to decide who they are or what they should do.

Why Empaths often attract Narcissists?

Even though it’s a toxic co-dependent combination, Empaths have a high chance of a relationship with a narcissist. Even though these two types of people are on opposite ends of the emotional care spectrum, they seem drawn together like moths to flames.

This is because empaths have a lot of compassion and understanding to give, while narcissists thrive on someone worshipping them. However, just because they are drawn to narcissists does not mean they are obligated to stay with them.

What is the spiritual path for an Empath?

It’s true that an Empath will have highly tuned psychic skills, but they don’t have any boundaries like a psychic does. A psychic observes the energy around them, whereas an Empath takes this one step further by sampling or experiencing the energy around them to check if their surroundings are safe. It is like they merge with others’ energy.

This means they rarely turn off their spiritual abilities and burn themselves out by overloading their sensory input. Due to taking on board so many people’s energy, their back energy centres (or chakras) will be blocked. These energy centres are like filters and need to have the energy move through them. A specialized energy healer will need to undo this blocked energy.

Spiritually, in this lifetime, an Empath is to complete ancestral Karma. Typically, they have soul contracts to claim their voice and speak THEIR truth. They are here to discover their self-worth and experience the polarity of choice.

They may have had past lives where they were narcissist, or they may have had lifetimes where they disrespected boundaries. They are here to master their psychic abilities while standing in their power without giving their power away and learning to be decisive.

Scientifically what is going on for an Empath?

Research shows that an empath’s Mirror Neurons are working overtime compared to the average person. These compassion neurons of the brain are responsible for mirroring the emotions of those we come in contact with. (We also see this in mothers with newborns, as their nervous system is on high alert to detect what is going on for their baby and to act accordingly.)

Looking at more science, dopamine is the pleasure hormone. Empaths need smaller amounts of Dopamine to feel good compared to their extrovert friends, who get their dopamine fix from being at big parties and events. Empaths get drained easily from sensory overstimulation, which can also overload their electromagnetic energy field (the electrical current that exists in the human body due to the chemical reactions that occur as part of normal bodily functions).

Empaths love to connect and get a lot more satisfaction from 1-on-1 interaction. This is when their natural nurturing abilities shine. Empaths feel compassion for everything and everybody.

However, people who have experienced higher levels of Empathic qualities have trouble with:

Healthy ongoing relationships,
Rewarding careers and
Financial freedom & wealth

This all comes back to their issues with being able to “receive,” as it does not come naturally to them anymore.

How to protect yourself as an Empath

What can an Empath do to protect your energy? And even more importantly, what can you do to embrace your superpower?

When it comes to boundaries, it’s not enough to just visualize a bubble of light.

The first thing an empath needs to do is to work out when they are giving their energy away and when they are not.
Secondly, you need to identify what are the underlying fears about being liked or understood.
Many times, Empaths give their energy away to prove their value. (Sometime in the past, they felt low self-worth, and they worked out that one way to build their self-worth was external validation.)
Thirdly, work out what is your energy and what does it feel like to take on other people’s energy.
It’s a strange thing to work out, but there will be some lessons waiting to be learned from taking on other people’s energy. Then, you can release other people’s energy with purity and clarity of mind.

Then, it is time to put a breathable bubble of light around you.

It is crucial that you use effective modalities such as Hypnotherapy and NLP to clear the beliefs around being an Empath that hold you back, aligning back to the highest truth of who you are. It’s important to learn the difference between your energy and the energy of others.

~ Be selective about who you spend time with.
~Avoid chronic talkers, drama, and people who complain a lot. This will absolutely bring down your energy as your heart is so open.
~ Find time for yourself. This may mean finding time away from yourself in nature while you are not being bombarded by anyone else’s feelings or stress.

If you feel triggered, you can –
~ simply close your eyes, breathe, and get centred. Call in your guides and firmly command, “If this energy is not mine, take it away,” and then feel the energy drop off you.
~ Ask your guides to put a bubble of light around you to strengthen your boundary.
~ When you are in the shower, you can imagine washing away the energy of others you have absorbed.
~ Ask Arch Angel Michael to cut the cords of anyone who has intruded on your space. Imagine that energy goes back to them.

I’m pleased to share this with you.
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