What is your Ego?
Integrating your Ego = Self love

Big & Fragile Ego
When you encounter someone who seems overly confident, self-important, and even a bit arrogant, it’s easy to label them as having a “big ego.” The grand display can be off-putting to anyone who feels insecure, leading to the immediate assumption that their ego is the problem. But is the ego truly the issue?
The ego is a fascinating and often misunderstood aspect of being human. It plays a crucial role in shaping our identity, self-esteem, and how we navigate the world. The ego helps you assert your needs, set boundaries, and interact with others. Its expression varies based on individual experiences and levels of self-awareness.
When someone appears overly self-assured, arrogant, or polarizing, this behaviour often conceals deeper insecurities or unmet needs for validation. Rather than being vulnerable and open about their inadequacies, the ego strives for superiority as a protective facade. Exuding external power, being the showman, or the life of the party reduces their chance of being rejected, hurt, or disapproved of. Even if judged, they might shrug it off with an attitude of “who cares – that’s your problem.”
This is where it can be confusing. Some might say this is a big ego, but it can also be considered a fragile ego relying on a superficial facade and defensive behaviours.
It is this type of bravado that causes people on their spiritual evolution path to assume they must destroy their ego to achieve enlightenment. Sensitive or empathic souls who strive to be kind, humble, and giving often worry about being labelled as “egotistical.” They may struggle to put themselves out there, be seen and heard, and receive their worth. For them, it can be all about giving, pleasing, and serving others – embodying love and light.
While they are aware of ego and intuition, they often resist and push away the ego rather than looking to integrate it. Similar to how they judge the darkness, assume its agenda and push it away, they miss the opportunity for deeper self-awareness and growth by not embracing all parts of themselves.

What Is The Ego?
The ego is the part of you that relates to your sense of self. It plays a crucial role in shaping our identity and interactions with the world. Acting as the mediator between our inner desires and external reality, the ego helps maintain a sense of self-worth and significance.
The ego is an essential part of the human experience, functioning from the logical and unconscious mind, influenced by automatic programs, impulses, and societal conditioning. Whenever you identify with “I” or “self,” it’s your ego in action, creating a distinction between who you are and who you are not and defining your individuality.
While your soul is an expansive, ever-present being of light, your ego operates in the mind, logically making sense of and defining your experiences in the physical world.

What Is Your Soul?
The soul is often considered the essence of who you are beyond the physical body and mind. It represents your true, eternal self, encompassing your higher consciousness at a higher frequency. While the ego operates in the material world, focusing on the “I” and the mind, the soul is viewed as an expansive, ever-present being of light that can transcend time, space, and physical reality.
The soul connects you to a higher, more profound sense of existence, embodying qualities like love, compassion, creativity, and intuition. It’s the part of you that can experience deep spiritual insights and connections with others and the universe.

When Does The Ego Get Created?
In the examples below, I refer to the mother as the primary caregiver. I fully acknowledge that children can be raised by non-birth parents.
Your ego starts forming around two to three years old when your consciousness evolves, your soul reaches a fork in the road, and you recognise you are separate from your mum.
But first, let’s explore where your soul was before that. When you consider your soul’s journey, it exists in a realm free from fear, judgment, or separation. This realm is pure love, where higher levels of consciousness view the world through neutrality, creativity, and openness to infinite possibilities.
One of those possibilities is for your soul to reside within the dense consciousness of 3D Earth. If you choose this path, you will experience a body with a much slower vibration than you are used to. Like the morphing of water, your vibration will move from being weightless like ‘gas’ through slower levels of vibration like ‘water’ and into the solid vibration like ‘ice’ to reside in a dense human body. Obviously, you are not cold like ice. Still, your existence becomes more tangible and rooted in the physical realm, allowing you to experience life through the unique lens of human consciousness.

You, Your Mum & Her Ego
Plans are put in place for your mother to conceive you, creating a portal or stream of energy for you to claim your physical body, your five senses and the logical mind to begin your journey in this world.
Interestingly, just because you are in a body, both in utero and as a baby, does not mean you automatically have an ego. The ego forms later when you are a toddler. During your early development, you are so entwined with your mother that you assume you are her and she is you. Essentially, you are ruled by her ego during this period.
As you grow and develop, you form your own sense of self, and your individual ego starts to take shape. This process involves distinguishing yourself from your mother and recognizing your own identity, separate from hers. It’s a gradual journey of self-awareness and individuality. From this point, your ego grapples with the desire to be a unique individual and the need to belong to a group. Being part of a group offers security, comfort, and identity. However, asserting independent behaviour, such as saying “no,” is crucial for exploring personal interests.
This tension between belonging and individuality persists throughout our lives. Healthy ego development involves harmonising these aspects, allowing you to integrate into social groups while maintaining your unique sense of self. It’s intriguing how polarizing the ego can be. On the one hand, it craves inclusion and fears separation. On the other hand, it may push people down to gain an advantage. Despite its mixed reputation, ego has several positive aspects that can enhance personal development and overall well-being.

The Main Focus Of The Ego
The focus of the ego is to:
- Ensure its survival, regardless of suffering.
- Belong, yet be an individual.
This paradox can be a mind-bender. When you consider your childhood, your survival is dependent on your parents. To take this even deeper, your parents do not just rule your childhood, but your parent’s ego rules both of you!
As children, you navigate how to meet our needs for survival, love, approval, and appreciation. Meanwhile, our parents make decisions based on their needs for survival, love, approval, and appreciation, driven by their egos. If the parent has not done the inner work, you can imagine how messy this can get, generation after generation.
With the examples below, I am writing this as if the mother raised the child. I fully acknowledge children can be raised by non-birth parents.
As a child, your mum will instil in you her programs about what you need to do for survival, love, approval, and appreciation. Due to the egos need to belong, childhood you will not have boundaries, and you will vulnerably obey. This is when programs of shame and guilt can be created, and the need to get it right so you can measure up to mum’s standards.
For example, she might teach you always to say “please” and “thank you,” instilling positive beliefs about politeness and respect for others. Others will validate her ego: “What a well-mannered child she has”. However, if this is enforced too rigidly, you might develop a limiting belief that your desires are less important than pleasing others, leading to difficulties in asserting yourself or setting boundaries later in life, continuing the pattern to self-abandon to avoid potential conflict.
Your mum will also impart beliefs about behaviours that lead to disconnect, rejection, and disapproval, shaping your limiting and positive beliefs. These ego rules may or may not align with your reality or experience. Yet with your egos need to get your mum’s acceptance, you will give up what is important to you, to avoid the trigger of disappointing her. As a child, you do what you need to do. But as an adult, can you be open and honest with her? Or do you manipulate the situation by giving in to her, allowing your ego to rule the show?
Yes, your egos will define your thoughts and the meaning you put into your experience. But it doesn’t always have to. By becoming aware of your unconscious programs, you can integrate the ego, rather than being ruled by it.

Ego & Reality
Why isn’t it true for everyone if your mum projects her truth?
This question discusses “What is reality?” and the transition through a spiritual awakening.
Your ego is immersed in life as if it is a movie. From the ego’s perspective, your movie is the only one; no other movies exist; therefore, there is one story and one truth. The ego can become trapped in thinking that the movie’s story and everything outside of you is affecting you and making you feel at their mercy, good or bad. This is when you hear the ego say, “It’s meant to be,” assuming there is an authority or destiny outside you, the ‘story writer.’
While we are in the movie, the ego creates very strong judgments about people and everything outside of itself – using the senses, everything it sees, hears and feels is categorised as right or wrong. Creating certainty that the world is black-and-white and assuming everyone else is living according to this truth.
When the individual ego clashes with others, it can create conflict. For instance, your mum might have encountered a barking dog as a child, which caused her ego to label dogs as threatening and bad. In contrast, your experiences with dogs have been positive and curious as an adult.
Your mum’s perspective is her truth in this metaphor, based on her own “movie.” However, it’s not your movie, and it’s not your truth.
As you awaken spiritually, your soul moves out of the movie and into a seat to observe what is happening. Looking at the screen and questioning, “There is something not quite right with the movie.” We wake up and think, “Isn’t that a bit interesting?!” The judgment starts to release as we question where we came up with that narrative or why we would follow that story as truth.
For many people, questioning the truth can lead you down multiple rabbit holes that differ from the movie’s truth’. It is like exploring the answer to this classic question: “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?” Physically, the falling tree generates sound waves that are detectable by auditory sensors. Yet, if no conscious beings hear it, does the sound exist as an experience? The 3D ego would argue, “Of course, it makes a sound!” Yet a spiritually awakened person would suggest that to hear the sound, it would require a perceiver (aka ears); without the instrument to pick up on sound, the consequence of the tree falling results in vibration that is not heard or felt – and therefore no sound.
Just like exploring the answers to “If a tree falls in a forest and no one hears it, does it make a sound?” questioning our movie or our reality is still in the phase of theory. This chapter is about being self-aware and aware of our inner world. We realise that the cause of our challenges isn’t necessarily what is outside of ourselves, as the movie suggests. Instead, we recognise that we have an influence on our experience when we change the inner world. With this self-awareness, you recognize that your inner world is projected onto the outer world, and the level of love, approval, and appreciation you have for yourself will be mirrored by those who share this perspective.
You see the screen and other people watching the movie and question, “What if there is another movie?” The egoic, spiritually asleep people will call you crazy for even asking the question, and their ego would ridicule you for even suggesting such a thing, especially your mum, who finds security in the movie she knows.
At this stage, we can feel the judgment of their ridicule as we still identify with part of ourselves being in the movie, while another part wants to step out – but to where?
You soon recognise the option to get out of the seat and move to the back of the cinema, where there is a door to the projector room.
In higher realms, the projector room is bustling with beings who may or may not be watching the movie. Conversation, planning, and other projects are being considered from multiple perspectives. Here, we engage with spirit guides and other team members as they assess the roles in this movie and others yet to be written. Even in higher realms, individuality exists, yet they question the truth from multiple perspectives. When you stop judging, you become neutral, which gives you creative choices and possibilities – aka “freedom”.
You realise there are multiple truths, and every aspect of consciousness has its own version of the truth. These “movies” can coexist, even your mum’s version of the truth! We understand that the inner world is the cause. Depending on your vibration, you attract the movie to you like a magnet, bringing in other players who resonate at that frequency.
From all perspectives, you get to be the scriptwriter, director, producer, and actor in your movie.

When Does The Ego Operate?
Your ego exists through thoughts and projections. Its primary job is to ensure its survival in this reality by looking to the past for potential threats and strategies to maintain power and control.
There is the “I” in the past, separate from who I am now. There is the “I” in the future, separate from who I am now. There is the “I” triggered last week, separate from who I am now. All of these “I”s are ruled by the ego, seeking love, acceptance, and approval.
So, your ego is ruling the show anytime you are not in the present moment.
Focusing too much on past problems can lead to health issues like depression. Similarly, excessive concern about the future, especially with a negative perspective, can create anxiety by causing the mind to worry about worst-case scenarios.
When you think about the past or future, your ego takes the wheel, attaching to drama and hijacking your inner peace with stories about how you “should” be, rejecting previous “ideal” versions of yourself. According to the ego, rest and slowing down are the enemy; urgency and hustle are the recipes for success, yet they leave you with temporary fulfilment. When the ego feels threatened or overwhelmed, it can fragment your sense of self, leading to inner conflicts and emotional turmoil. These competing aspects cause defensiveness and resistance.
The important piece to notice is that you suffer due to the stories, meanings, and misinterpretations that the ego holds onto from our experiences in human form.
Your soul knows no suffering. Your soul is in the driver’s seat of your experience whenever you reside in the present moment. Your soul is not ruled by time. It can bi-locate and travel across all times, dimensions, and realities, while your ego enables you to function in the 3D world, where you operate within time consciousness but will avoid looking at the now.
As an everyday example, you might recall an uncomfortable conversation with your mum earlier in the day. This thought takes you back to the past, focusing on the past “I,” and causes your body to respond to the discomfort. Unconsciously, you scan your past experiences for what soothed you before, landing on comfort food—specifically chocolate. So, you grab a quick bite of chocolate for a boost of energy to get through the rest of your day, supporting the future “I.” Believe it or not, these moments of past and future preservation are the ego at work.
With this in mind, it’s understandable why it can take a disciplined mind to be still in the now – absent of suffering.

The Fragile Ego & The Empath
People with fragile egos often use subtle predatory tactics to charm you into their life. They will say things that make you feel good to gain your trust, but they will exploit your vulnerabilities once they know your buttons. It can be hard to identify at first, as they make it seem like you are getting your needs met. However, you may soon realise that you have been giving, serving, helping, and pleasing them. They tug on your ‘need to be needed’ identity, masking their manipulation in such a way that wears you down before you fully realise what is going on.

Signs Of A Big Fragile Ego
Spotting an ego in others can be subtle, but here are some signs of a big fragile ego:
- Grandiose sense of self-importance: People with a fragile ego often have an inflated view of their importance, talents, and achievements. They may exaggerate their accomplishments and expect recognition.
- Preoccupation with fantasies of success: They may be preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love, which often dominate their thoughts. They seek out conversations with high-status individuals or institutions.
- Sense of entitlement: They often have a sense of entitlement, expecting favourable treatment and compliance with their expectations without reciprocation. Saying “no” to them will cause them to switch from friendly to harsh treatment.
- Exploitation of others: People with fragile egos might take advantage of others to achieve their goals, showing little regard for the feelings or needs of those around them. For example, they may ask for your assistance in their projects, claiming you’re fortunate to work closely with them instead of giving you proper credit for your contributions.
- Playing the victim: They may portray themselves as victims, making others feel guilty for their perceived suffering. This can lead to others feeling responsible for their well-being and catering to their needs.
- Gaslighting: Fragile egos distort reality and make others doubt their perceptions and memories. Doing this can make others feel guilty for things they didn’t do or for questioning a person with a fragile ego. This can create a sense of obligation and control.
- Blame-shifting: They often shift the blame onto others for their own mistakes or shortcomings. This can make others feel guilty and responsible for their ego problems.
- Emotional blackmail: People with fragile egos may use emotional blackmail to manipulate others into doing what they want. They might threaten to withdraw love, affection, or support, making others feel guilty and compelled to comply.
Any chance they can get to feel superior and push their inadequacies out of sight and out of mind, they will eagerly seize it.

Fragile Ego In Others
People with fragile egos carry a lot of shame and have a weak sense of self. Fragile egos will use fear, obligation, and guilt to get their fix of power, control, validation, and attention from their unsuspecting “friend” or “family.” Even if this manipulation is unhealthy, their need for ego supply is their utmost priority.
In many cases, they will do anything to amplify the drama and pull you into their chaos, making you more susceptible to their manipulation. For example, they might say something reactive like, “I see how it is—you have more important things to do than help me.”
Knowing this is a distorted view, your natural instinct will be to justify yourself. However, think about it: by provoking you, all they need to do is get you to justify your actions and then twist your words to confuse you. Suddenly, you’re in the palm of their hand, taken off track and giving them what they want. You will likely give in and do what they want to stop the confusion. This tactic is known as a double bind.
Instead of being emotionally compromised, diminish their control by addressing their need directly (these needs often include power, control, validation, and attention). Counter their manipulative behaviour and call them out on their tactics in a non-confrontational, curious manner. For example, you could say, “I can see you are stressed, trying to manage your workload—what do you think both of us can do to make things easier and more manageable for you?” This way, you are not forced to do things you don’t want to do, nor will you be pulled into their game to accept their accusations. Ultimately, you are stepping out of their push-pull power dynamic and putting the responsibility on them.
Admittedly, it takes considerable practice to bypass your natural instincts to justify yourself. With self-development, you can progress, so you stay in control of your autonomy and agree to conditions that work for you on your terms and align with your values.

Attracting Other People with Fragile Egos?
If you are caught in this dynamic, here are some approaches you may want to look at within your healing journey:
- How much of your identity thrives on “fixing” and providing emotional support to others?
- How comfortable are you with people being uncomfortable in your company?
- How comfortable are you with strong boundaries?
- How do you know when you are valued?
- How do you feel about receiving attention and admiration?
- What is left unfulfilled from your childhood that continues to play out in this dynamic?
- How much of your self-worth or self-concept is tied up in receiving admiration for how much you give to others?
- What needs to be in place for you to have a healthy and safe connection and relationship?

New Way Forward
You are more than your five senses can perceive, even in your physical body. Science has shown that your energy and electromagnetic fields extend beyond your physical form, interacting profoundly with the world around you. These interactions influence and are influenced by other energy fields, thoughts, and emotions. This interconnectedness means you are part of a larger, dynamic system where your presence and consciousness create ripples that impact the environment and individuals around you.
While your ego may project that it is in charge, you have the power to transcend its influence and explore your infinite connection. By stepping into a state of sacred neutrality and becoming the observer, you begin the inner work required to align your inner world with your desired experiences. This journey involves recognising and releasing old patterns, beliefs, and judgments that no longer serve you.
Earlier, I mentioned that it’s not just you who has an ego. Your mum has her ego, too, which seeks survival, love, appreciation, and approval. By functioning from a neutral perspective, you can defuse situations that previously would have caused you to react, and over time, you’ll attract easier ways of being.
For instance, I had a client dedicated to her health regime while her mum expressed love through baking and gifted her some biscuits. The client’s ego could have interpreted this as rejecting her new identity. However, it was more helpful to recognise that the biscuits were an invitation for her mum’s ego to feel validated and appreciated. The biscuits were merely a vehicle for that validation, rather than her mum being vulnerable enough to ask for what she needed.
By simply saying, “I appreciate you, Mum, and thank you for the biscuits,” the ego’s needs were met, and the tension was immediately discharged. The client was then able to step into the soul’s perspective of the observer rather than the ego’s need to be in control. Interestingly, it was healthier for my client’s body and mind to maintain calmness rather than engaging with the stressful power dynamic.
Even as an adult, you may automatically revert to old unconscious patterns from childhood. However, it’s important to remember that, as an adult, you have multiple ways to meet your needs for love, appreciation, and approval that weren’t available to you as a child. You can take control rather than being at the mercy of the ego—reacting to life, dropping into imposter syndrome, shame, anxiety, scarcity, and fear, or worrying about disappointing others. Say “goodbye” to being a servant of the ego and get as comfortable with your “no’s” as you are with your “yes’s.” Embrace the affirmation: “I appreciate you, and I am making the decision to prioritise me.” Feeling fulfilled and free to be your authentic self requires some self-enquiry.
By cultivating self-awareness and practising self-love, you raise your vibration and attract experiences that resonate with your higher self. In this state of neutrality, you can more easily navigate your path, make conscious choices, and create a reality that reflects your true essence. Become the architect of your story, weaving together a tapestry of interconnected truths and endless possibilities.

Integrating The Ego
Many people are drawn to self-development and coaching to understand themselves better. Some seek answers to fundamental questions like, “Do I matter?” while others turn to these practices to resolve fears, traumas, or relationship challenges.
Rarely do they investigate where their ego has played a role in control and power dynamics, like a villain in other people’s stories. You reinforce the ego and its grip on you by pushing away and denying these aspects of yourself.
It is worth looking at themes like where you have been these traits, how much you reject these parts of yourself, and what you have learned from that human experience.
- Self-centred: When did you prioritise your own needs and desires and put your opinions above those of others, showing little consideration for others’ feelings or perspectives?
- Need for Admiration: When did you frequently talk about your achievements, talents, or possessions, seeking admiration and validation from others for your self-esteem?
- Arrogance: When did you display a sense of superiority, believing you are better or more important than others? Did you dominate conversations and situations, wanting to be the centre of attention?
- Lack of Empathy: When did you dismiss others’ emotions and experiences?
- Disregard: When did you disregard others’ contributions, ideas, or feedback, believing your opinions are the only ones that matter?
- Defensiveness: When faced with criticism or challenge, when did you become defensive or hostile, unable to accept that you might be wrong?
- Manipulative: When did you manipulate others to achieve your goals without concern for their impact on others?
Some of these experiences might not have obvious or standout links to the past. However, reflecting on what you learned from dismissing a helpless person on the street or facing a challenge in your teenage years can open up the path to clearing guilt and shame. Look for contradictions and inconsistencies that mismatch your values. Sometimes, it is how the negative trait is framed more than the negative trait itself.
By exploring all aspects of yourself—the good, the bad, and the ugly—you can integrate the ego and gain a proper understanding of your “negative traits,” transforming the judgment of “bad” into “just is.” These rich “aha” moments give you the empowered choice and confidence to say “no” to opportunities that are out of alignment with the truth of who you are and “yes” to creating what is important to you in life.
An integrated state occurs when the ego is harmonised with the whole self, allowing greater self-awareness and authenticity.

Healthy Ego & Soul
When the ego recognises itself, it loses its power to deceive you. This self-awareness diminishes the ego’s ability to manipulate your thoughts and behaviours because you know its tricks and tactics.
By identifying the ego, you can see through its attempts to inflate itself or mask insecurities. This awareness allows you to make more conscious choices and respond to situations more clearly and authentically. Essentially, the ego can no longer control you because you can see it for what it truly is.
The opposite of a fragile ego would be a strong, healthy ego. Here are some characteristics of a strong ego:
- Self-confidence: A strong ego is often characterised by high self-assurance and confidence in one’s abilities and decisions.
- Self-awareness: Individuals with a strong ego are generally more aware of their strengths and weaknesses. They can accurately assess their capabilities and limitations.
- Resilience: A strong ego allows individuals to handle criticism and setbacks with grace. They are resilient and can learn from their experiences without being overly defensive.
- Empathy and compassion: People with strong egos often exhibit greater empathy and compassion towards others. They can recognise and understand the feelings and perspectives of those around them.
- Healthy boundaries: They can establish and maintain healthy boundaries, ensuring that their needs are met while respecting the needs of others.
- Humility: A strong ego does not require constant validation or praise. These individuals are humble and can appreciate the contributions and achievements of others.
- Assertiveness: They can express their needs and opinions confidently and assertively without being aggressive or domineering.
A strong, healthy ego is about balance and self-assuredness, allowing individuals to navigate their lives with confidence, empathy, and resilience.
What is your Intuition?
Did you know your intuition is NOT:
- Self-talk & inner dialogue.
- Voices from the past.
- Logical.
- Talking in sentences.
- Emotional.
- Judgmental.
- Loud.
- Your beliefs.
- Adamant in its strength.
Your intuition comes from:
- Your heart.
- Within the core of you.
- Your “Gut”
- It comes from your 6th sense, rather than your logical 5 senses.
Intuition & Vulnerability
I used to think my intuition would lead me down the ‘right’ path and steer me away from the ‘wrong’ path. I assumed that the right path was the easy path and the wrong path was the challenging path. It was an ah-ha moment when I realised that your intuition motivates you to be your purpose.
If you have a purpose to step onto the stage, stand in the spotlight and inspire people by speaking your truth, then you will have to work through all the ego conditioning from where you currently are to where you want to be. You must work through the fear of being judged, the low self-worth of ‘why would people listen to me’, and any other limiting emotions that allow the ego to grip you to stay the same.
Your intuition will require you to be vulnerable and create an entirely new path that requires change. That’s why it can be hard to follow intuition, as we have an instinct to pull away from unfamiliarity.
If you can get comfortable with being uncomfortable, your intuition will lead you to be in alignment with your purpose. So, if your soul’s purpose is to learn about self-empowerment, your intuition will move you towards obtaining this.
Your Ego will go against your intuition and will use whatever it can to keep you from changing. It will trigger the emotional body and release fear. It will drive up your anxiety, causing your logical mind to race with all the reasons why you shouldn’t go ahead.
There are so many aspects playing out, such as the emotional body, the mental body, your instincts, your ego, your intuition, your psychic senses, and your instincts.
This is why coaching is so powerful. Coaching will help you resolve old limiting patterns and familiar outgrown habits so your Intuition can lead you forward to manifest the best version of yourself.

Trust Your Intuition
Next time you want to make a decision, quiet your mind. Come to the present time. Hand on your heart, what’s important to you about this decision? Breathe and listen to that humble inner knowing. Your intuition is the first answer when you ask yourself a question. For example, “What is it like if I go down this path?” a ‘yes’ will feel light, excitable, or like a gentle warm nudge. A ‘no’ will feel heavier or dull.
Keep in mind that if you ask yourself, “What is it like if I go down this path?” your ego will be quick to justify, make excuses, and explain why you should do what is familiar. But that’s usually why we try to engage with our intuition. Our intuition drives us to grow and reach our potential—this can mean doing something different than what has been done before! This is why people engage with coaching. They are looking for clarity moving forward.
Following your intuition means being clear about what’s important to YOU – not what other people have told you that you should do or want. People often won’t listen to their intuition because they fear trusting themselves and are stuck in a pattern of relying on external validation. (This can easily be resolved in a coaching session).
We can all relate to those moments when we say, “Oh, I should have listened to my intuition”.
It does take time to train your intuition. Be easy on yourself as you learn to tap into this powerful part of you.
Ask the Right Questions
Next time you want to make a decision, quiet your mind. Come to the present time. Hand on your heart, what’s important to you about this decision? Breathe and listen to that humble inner knowing. Your intuition is the first answer when you ask yourself a question. For example, “What is it like if I go down this path?” a ‘yes’ will feel light, excitable, or like a gentle warm nudge. A ‘no’ will feel heavier or dull.
Keep in mind that if you ask yourself, “What is it like if I go down this path?” your ego will be quick to justify, make excuses, and explain why you should do what is familiar. But that’s usually why we try to engage with our intuition. Our intuition drives us to grow and reach our potential—this can mean doing something different than what has been done before! This is why people engage with coaching. They are looking for clarity moving forward.
Following your intuition means being clear about what’s important to YOU – not what other people have told you that you should do or want. People often won’t listen to their intuition because they fear trusting themselves and are stuck in a pattern of relying on external validation. (This can easily be resolved in a coaching session).
We can all relate to those moments when we say, “Oh, I should have listened to my intuition”.
It does take time to train your intuition. Be easy on yourself as you learn to tap into this powerful part of you.
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