Connect with your Guides
It's a Beautiful Relationship
Tune In To Your Guides
Would you like to strengthen your connection to beings in the spirit world? These could be your spirit guides, loved ones in spirit, ascended masters, angels, archangels, vibrational beings, and more. When I consider connecting to the spirit world, I use the collective term “the team.” It is a term of endearment for those kind and benevolent beings.
Building a relationship with “the team” can be a comforting and enlightening experience. By setting your intention, quieting your mind, and opening yourself up to their messages, you create a pathway for guidance, support, and wisdom. Whether through signs, dreams, or intuitive thoughts, your connection with these higher beings can help you navigate life’s challenges with a sense of peace and assurance. Embrace this connection and know that you are never alone on your journey.
People often ask me to help them engage with their spirit guides, seeking higher guidance. While this seems like an intriguing chapter in someone’s spiritual awakening, it is important to check in with the intention behind wanting to connect.
It’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed by life and think, “What I’m doing is not working. Please, someone tell me what to do!” Being an adult is tough, and responsibility can be a burden; however, seeking external validation from a higher power to dictate the person’s actions often signals a red flag.
The truth is, your guides are not like your parents. Guides are co-creators who work with you to achieve your life’s mission and goals. Knowing you are the CEO of your life, they listen to what you want and wait for your request to help. Only then will they move things on the chessboard of life to provide guidance and help navigate life’s challenges. You are the one with your feet on the ground, experiencing the 3D realm. Guides are like crystalline beings in the 5D (higher realm of consciousness), akin to students or scientists holding a clipboard, observing and learning from your journey in this realm.
Part of your mission in the 3D physical realm is to forge a deeper connection to your true self in a human body and understand your unique perspective of the universal principle of human free will. Respecting your free will is one of the top guidelines that your guides will not overstep. They will not interfere with your personal choices unless invited to do so.
Your quest to explore human free will involves learning to balance autonomy and responsibility. In other words, it’s about valuing your personal growth while respecting others: cause and effect. Every action leads to a corresponding reaction or outcome.
Take a moment to think about your individual journey to learn about autonomy and how you navigate choice.
When we combine this with responsibility and accountability, our choices will always lead to consequences in this space-time reality. Why is this important?
This is one reason why your guides learn from your experience. Causality is unique to being here on Earth and essential for personal growth and learning. By understanding the effects of our actions, we can make better choices, learn from mistakes, and evolve. This understanding of causality in the physical realm contrasts with higher dimensions, where time and causality function differently. In those realms where your guides reside, they focus more on unity consciousness, synchronicity, timelessness, and multidimensionality.
Between Lives
It is truly liberating when you know how to access your soul’s journey. Only our human mind constructs time in a linear form of past, present, and future. Outside our bodies, our soul moves beyond space and time into other dimensions, just like when we dream.
After working with thousands of clients, the evidence continues to build that we all planned to come to this world for Earth’s unique learnings. Like at school, our souls sign up for this 3D reality to learn about polarity, time, space, and matter. When we reflect on how difficult life has been, we may ask ourselves, “What was I thinking?” There is wisdom to the madness. In the spirit world, where our soul resides between lives, we do not have lower energies such as anger, hate, resentment, sadness, frustration, etc. It is a profound experience to come to Earth to learn this. The higher intention is to help drive you forward to experience human love that is unique and special through the learnings you gain.
Like a movie, the cast comes together to play a part in each other’s lives. Learning, teaching, and evolving, they weave a tapestry of experiences that shape and enrich their collective journey; lifetime after lifetime. Between lives, the soul family gathers around the soul contract table. Roles, lessons, and contracts are written up with those who are part of our soul family. This soul family can come in as relatives, work colleagues, people we randomly interact with, or even our enemies!
Some souls come into this lifetime to teach you what you don’t like about love (like a messy ex-boyfriend), so you know what you like about love. It is often highly regarded when another soul volunteers to be the one that teaches you what you don’t like about love, as it creates a contrasting relationship.
The higher intention is to gain clarity, raise your frequency, and manifest what you want—then teach others how to raise their light.
Thank goodness we don’t do this alone. Some souls stay in the spirit world as “Spirit guides,” offering higher perspectives to assist us. I often wonder what motivates guides in their role.
When I asked them this question,
- some explained that they stay connected through soul contracts to complete something they set out to do lifetimes ago (you have the choice to complete this soul contract earlier to make space for new guides).
- Others cherish their role in serving and assisting for the highest good.
- There is also a collection of guides who love being in your company and navigating life like being on a rollercoaster—without the risk of falling!
If you had the choice, would you be a guide or a human?
Who are Spirit Guides? Why are they here?
Everyone has Spirit Guides, guardian angels, and ancestors in the spirit world. Before you come to Earth, your soul resided within the spirit world. It is fun to imagine a group of souls hanging out in the spirit world. Some of these souls want to be human, other souls prefer to observe and gather knowledge without experiencing life in a human body.
We can recognise our spirit guides as beings we have known in the spirit world, in past lives, and other realities. In special circumstances, some people have future versions of themselves as a guide!
When we ask our guides for assistance, we need to ensure we are asking the most appropriate guide the relevant question.
Each guide is going to have their own agenda. Like asking your Nanna for guidance on how to navigate online dating and your sex life, you may be surprised by the answers you get. If your guide is nurturing and overprotective, they may give you every reason to hold yourself back. Alternatively, if you ask your ‘romance’ guide for their perspective, you may feel a wash of passion and enthusiasm supporting your quest to attract a companion.
Like trusted friends, each guide will have their attitudes and opinions about your direction in life. Sometimes, we can outgrow those friends. Guides do not have to be connected to us for our entire life. You can release the connection with guides who may want some distance to explore other avenues.
The type of guides that are closest to you will influence how you navigate life. When I sit down to prepare for a client’s session, I link in to their guides to get their perspective.
Some clients have guides that are like ‘cuppa-tea ladies’—busy bodies who gossip at my desk. This indicates that the client will be dealing with a lot of noise and mental chatter. No wonder they come to me for clarity.
I’ve had clients’ guides step forward who are so elegant and regal that it is clear they have not had a human life for thousands of years. While they are here to support the client in enhancing their powerful healing abilities, the client is having trouble navigating the practicalities of this modern world, such as promoting themselves on social media and websites.
One thing I must highlight is that it is the guides who have moved things on the chessboard of life to get the client in front of me for clarity. I can work as the conduit between where the client is stuck and where the guides are encouraging them to be. Thank goodness for those who listen to their intuition and book an appointment.
On a funny note, some guides have been known to be down the street playing a game of tennis before the session. Energetically, I call out to them, “Come and join this session,” and the response I get is, “She hasn’t been listening to us; it’s your turn to get the message across!”
How do spirit guides communicate with us?
Spirit guides communicate with you in various forms, often favouring messages sent via synchronicities. These meaningful coincidences indicate that you are in alignment with your destiny.
Some synchronicities might appear as number sequences, like 111 or your lucky number. For me, seeing “68” or “27” reassures me that my guides are nearby. I might see these numbers in an address, a number plate, or other random coincidences. Knowing my team has already pre-organized this connection makes me smile.
Spirit guides can also send musical messages, like a song that always inspires you or a lyric that gets stuck in your head. Pay attention to the words and the meaning they impart.
Your guides might also send you dreams that offer ideas on handling situations or even appear in your dreams. Recently, I dreamed of meeting a killer whale, which I took as a spiritual symbol of harmony, travel, community, and protection. The message was a helpful hint about booking that holiday with friends.
Spirit guides often send impulses or inspired ideas that require action. For example, they could prompt you to go to a coffee shop, only to bump into an old neighbour, as an uplifting opportunity to reconnect.
Not all messages are easy to receive. Sometimes, they will encourage you to do the hard work, have that confronting conversation, or face a difficult past to polish yourself like a pearl. Often, life has proven why you shouldn’t trust support from people, let alone trust the invisible intuitive guidance of your guides.
A big part of your spiritual journey will involve discernment and trust. Discernment helps you sift through the noise to understand what truly matters and aligns with your highest good. Trust provides a stable foundation, helping you stay grounded and resilient in facing challenges.
Confidently following your path while being mindful of the influences around you is a huge part of everyone’s spiritual awakening. That is why it is so important to laser in on your intuition.
Everybody receives information in different ways
Clairvoyance
Some people will SEE the answer in within their mind. This can be visual pictures, images or movies.
Clairaudience
Some people will HEAR the answer within their mind. This can be sounds, lyrics to a song and voices.
Clairsentience
Some people will FEEL the answer within their body. This can be energy, emotions or physical sensations.
Claircognizance
Some people will KNOW the answer within their mind. This will be an unshakable certainty and inner knowledge.
Negative Energy
Loving, benevolent beings create energy, whereas negative beings take energy. Just like negative people, we all know what it’s like to come away feeling drained after being in the company of low vibrational beings.
If you find yourself going through ongoing chapters of suffering, low energy, self-pity, health problems, and financial troubles, it may be a sign that you have negative influential beings around you. Some call these “attachments.” Clearing these negative energies and cleansing your home and aura is a professional skill.
While I discuss this topic in detail in other chapters of my content, keep in mind that the more you feel empowered, the more you ‘face your fears,’ and the more you disengage from drama and scarcity, the more you are naturally protected from negative energies.
Childhood and Spirit Guides
Do you know anyone you would consider ‘spiritually asleep’? Observing how they function in this reality is intriguing. They keep their soulful guidance at arm’s length while finding safety in logic and relying solely on their five senses. It would be easy to assume they have never had any spiritual connection. However, knowing that they made a soul contract to be here on Earth, at some point, they decided to dial down their connection to the spirit world.
Every child shines brightly when they come into this world. Their innocence and curiosity stem from their childlike vulnerability and wisdom. They have not yet dulled their sixth sense, as the world has not worn them down or taught them to be scared. Their hearts are open to taking in everything life has to offer.
It is common to find a toddler engaging and giggling at what seems to be nothing in the room. It is easy to dismiss this as them talking to imaginary friends, but it is often a loved one in the spirit world, like a grandparent, keeping them entertained.
By design of a higher plan, there will be a time for all of us when we are at a crossroads with our connection to the spiritual realms. Do we continue to maintain this strong connection with our sixth sense, intuition, and spiritual connection? Or is it time to ‘grow up’ and conform to this logical world, trusting only our five senses?
It’s like the Robin Williams character of Peter Pan in “Hook.” After leaving Neverland, Peter forgets his true identity and his adventures with the Lost Boys. He becomes a successful but workaholic lawyer, distancing himself from the carefree and adventurous spirit of his youth. This transformation symbolizes the loss of childhood innocence and imagination, and the struggle to balance the demands of adulthood with the joy and wonder of one’s inner child. Is it any wonder why those Peter Pan-like characters seek out their spiritual awakening when the material world provides burnout and a lack of fulfillment?
The crossroads we all face typically occur between the ages of two and seven. A familiar guide engages with a child in an eerie, shadow-like manner. The child is put to the test: Will they dial into their wonder about what is in the shadows, or have their parents influenced them to be fearful where they switched off?
Whether you are spiritually open or you allowed fear to get the better of you, it’s time to tune in to your guides.
Practical ways to connect with your Guides.
Are you curious about how to connect with your guides? The most powerful way to start is by setting your intention.
First, quiet your mind. Take a few deep breaths and then ask your question. You may not get the answer right away, as the universe will align perfect synchronicity to answer your question. You just have to be open to listen.
Often, we find ourselves in lower energy, worrying about the past or anxious about the future. Your guides operate in a higher energy and rely on communicating with you when your mind is focused on the ‘now.’ This is why you may find it easier to connect with your guides when you are in the shower or at 3am.
Remember, when enhancing your connection to your guides, always ask for the TRUTH in the highest and best way. You are a powerful being. When you ask your question, the universe must always provide you with an answer.
Keep a look out for signs from your guides
Your signs will be unique to you. Your team will utilize your personal library of knowledge and experience to give you signs that resonate with your standards.
For example, my team will place a white feather on my path when I need upliftment.
I tend to squeal with delight when I see a “27” or “68” number plate in front of me, knowing that my guides are protecting my path ahead.
I see a Blue Wren when they want to remind me of my grandmother’s love. This does not have to be a literal bird; it can be a statue in a shop or a drawing on the spine of a book.
Clients I know receive signs from butterflies, ladybirds, white flowers, or specific songs.
When communicating with your guides, give them instructions. For instance, “Please show me a duck today if this is the house I’m supposed to buy.” I did this a few years back. I walked into the kitchen, and they had duck curtains. I had the winning bid on that property!
Spirit Guide Journaling
This is a special and beautiful process for those who love to write. Designate a special journal just for you and your guides to communicate with one another. This is a sacred space where you can ask questions or practice automatic writing for them to answer you.
Here are the steps to follow for this process:
Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Perhaps light some candles, place your crystals, or have some incense burning in the background.
Get your journal and pen. Take a few deep breaths and quiet your mind.
With your dominant hand, start writing the question you need answers and guidance on.
Switch to your non-dominant hand and try to keep your mind clear as you allow your guides to work through you. You may find yourself writing scribbles or feeling inspired to write the first thing that comes to mind. The more you surrender, the more your guides will start to write through you.
This may feel uncomfortable at first, but do it anyway. Give your guides time and patience to learn how to work with you.
You might notice that some of your guides have different handwriting styles, depending on the topic you are asking about.
Knowing how much your guides want to assist you, you could also use this journal as your Gratitude Journal. This will give them permission to help you enhance your manifesting goals.
Get to know your Guides by asking for their name
I always like to connect with my guides by using their names. I find this helps strengthen the connection, as I can call upon them when needed.
To discover their names, I clear my mind and simply ask them. I’ve been doing this for so long that I trust the first name that comes to mind. You can feel the energy of their personality. Some may be serious, while others are playful and curious.
- I have a Guide named Walter who helps me stay safe on the road.
- I have a Guide named Joe who brings forward wisdom when working with clients.
- I have a Guide named Pua who comes from Hawaii and sits in when ever I’m doing healings.
- I have a business Guide named Yan who I knew in 227BC when the Great Wall of China was built.
- I have a Guide named Jane who has a clipboard and is responsible for all the other guides on the team. The list goes on.
Develop a daily, weekly, or monthly spiritual practice
Taking time to ground yourself and connect back in with your spirit guides is immensely powerful to your wellbeing.
This can be as simple as drawing a Tarot card every morning for guidance or to go for a walk in nature to connect to mother earth…without your phone!
I leave my crystals out in the full moon once a month and have gratitude for Grandmother Moon to support my journey. I will also work with Arch angels to energetically cleanse my home with Sage. (see link for instructions to complete this process for yourself).
